Take this 5-minute quiz to uncover the subconscious emotional wound that’s quietly blocking your confidence, your joy, and your ability to manifest what you truly want.
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Question 1 of 8
When someone is upset with me, I usually…
Try to fix it or apologize quickly - even if I didn’t do anything wrong
Pull away because I assume they don’t want me around
Stay quiet—I don’t want to make it worse
Criticize myself for messing things up again
Feel panicked they might leave me
Try to control the conversation or situation to regain harmony
Question 2 of 8
Which of these thoughts feels most familiar to you?
“If I don’t make people happy, they won’t love me, or they will think I don't love them.”
“No matter what I do, I always feel like the outsider.”
“My feelings don’t matter, so why speak up?”
“I’m never good enough, no matter how hard I try.”
“Everyone leaves eventually.”
“If I’m not in control, everything will fall apart.”
Question 3 of 8
How do you usually respond to receiving help or care from others?
I feel guilty and try to give something back immediately
I assume they don’t really mean it or won’t stick around
I feel awkward - I’m not used to being seen that way
I wonder if I deserve it or if I’ve done enough to earn it
I cling to it because I’m afraid it won’t last
I appreciate it, but I still need to double-check everything myself
Question 4 of 8
Which of these childhood experiences feels most familiar?
Love was given or taken away based on my behavior
I was left out, dismissed, or felt like I didn’t belong
No one really asked how I felt or listened to my emotions
I was compared to others or criticized for not being “better”
Someone important walked away or emotionally checked out
I had to stay alert, be responsible and look after things because no one else was responsible enough, capable enough or organized enough unpredictable
Question 5 of 8
How do you feel when someone disagrees with you?
I try to smooth things over so they don’t get mad
I assume they don’t like me anymore
I shut down - I don’t feel safe to speak up
I fear they’ll walk away from the relationship entirely
I get anxious and try to “fix” it by overexplaining
I immediately think I said something wrong or stupid
Question 6 of 8
What do you struggle with the most in relationships?
Being yourself without trying to keep others happy
Feeling accepted for who you are
Speaking up about your needs
Feeling like you’re good enough for your partner
Trusting that someone will stay
Letting go and not controlling how things unfold
Question 7 of 8
When things feel uncertain or out of your control, you tend to…
Worry about how others will feel or if they’ll still like me
Assume the worst and withdraw from people
Go quiet and try not to “bother” anyone
Blame yourself or believe you failed somehow
Feel anxious and cling to people or routines for safety
Try to micromanage, plan, or take charge to reduce risk
Question 8 of 8
What’s the hardest thing for you to believe about yourself?
That I’m lovable even when I’m not pleasing everyone
That I belong and people want me around
That my feelings and needs truly matter
That I’m already enough just as I am
That I’m not going to be left behind
That I can be safe without controlling everything